Take care of yourself first

 

You’re trying so hard to help people out, to satisfy your family, friends, boss, and coworkers. However, you keep mistreating yourself and ignoring your basic and complex needs.

Let’s be clear, if you don’t drink water, nobody will do it for you. If you don’t sleep well, nobody will do it for you. If you don’t eat well, nobody will do it for you. If you don’t exercise, nobody will do it for you. If you don’t respect yourself, nobody will do it for you. People tend to treat you as you seem to treat yourself, and you’re always wondering why people don’t respect you or your boundaries… well, it’s probably because you’re not doing it either.

How can you work this through?

Respect your intuition — If you don’t want to go somewhere, don’t go! If something doesn’t feel alright, stop doing it! If someone is treating you badly, abandon the situation! Why do you keep attending places that you don’t want to? Because you care too much about what others think and not even a bit about what you think.

Do things that you like — If you like doing something, stop waiting for someone to make you secure about doing it. Stops expecting your friend’s approval, partner’s approval, and family’s approval. Do what feels right for you without expecting someone else’s opinion.

Prioritize your health — Fuel your body with quality food! Walk, go to the gym, practice pilates, and practice the Wim Hof method. Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable, and stop pretending with outfits that are hurting you or squishing you. Sleep well, drink water, and meditate.

Leave toxic people, relationships, and environments — If you don’t like how someone is treating you, and even if you tell them they keep doing the same, leave them! Stop saying yes to their invitations if you know that you’re going to end up drained out. If you don’t like how some people talk or how they disapprove of everyone and always drag people down with their words… why are you going out with them? They teach you to gossip, to ditch people, and to be negative, and the worst is that you allow them with your presence.

Stand up for yourself — Defend your point of view, speak up when someone is letting you down, and say when something is not right for you. Defend yourself as you wished as a kid that someone defended you, now you are an adult and now you have a voice that deserves to be heard.

Be kind to yourself — Stop complaining about yourself, feeling less than others, or talking bad about yourself. Stop saying to people that you are clumsy, stupid, or desperate. Respect yourself and start talking to yourself as if you were talking to royalty. If you do this, your personal view of yourself will change and you’ll start thinking about yourself as someone worthy of respect, love, and empathy.

Start by doing these and tell me how it goes for you, I know it’s hard and sometimes life can get confusing but you’re the owner of your life and you should live it as good as it can get.